AB Cordileone suggests meeting critics to ‘soften the heart’

Echoes Pope Francis on child’s right to mother and father
Archbishop Cordileone

Archbishop Cordileone

The following comes from a June 17 Catholic News Service story published on the website of Catholic World Report.

San Francisco Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone has rejected California politicians’ criticism of the March for Marriage, stressing his duty to teach “the truth about marriage” even when it may not be popular.

The June 19 March for Marriage in Washington, D.C., is “not anti-anyone or anti-anything,” Archbishop Cordileone said in a June 16 letter to political leaders, religious leaders, and leaders of LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) activist groups.

“Rather, it is a pro-marriage march,” the archbishop continued. The march “affirms the great good of bringing the two halves of humanity together so that a man and a woman may bond with each other and with any children who come from their union.”

Archbishop Cordileone, who heads the U.S. bishops’ Subcommittee for the Promotion and Defense of Marriage, said that if the event intended to “single out a group of individuals and target them for hatred, I most certainly would not be there.”

The archbishop’s letter comes in response to a June 10 letter signed by Lt. Gov. Gavin Newsom, San Francisco Mayor Ed Lee, several other leaders in the California and San Francisco governments, several dissenting Catholic groups, and several LGBT advocacy groups. Several non-Catholic clergy also signed the letter.

Their letter asked the Catholic archbishop to “reconsider his participation” in the march. They claimed that march organizers like the National Organization for Marriage and the Family Research Council are “some of the nation’s most virulently anti-LGBT organizations and leaders.”

Archbishop Cordileone noted Pope Francis’ April 11 comments to the International Catholic Child Bureau, in which the Pope said, “We must reaffirm the right of children to grow up in a family with a father and mother.”

The archbishop also affirmed respect for “the intrinsic human dignity of all people.” He said that some of the critics’ comments about March for Marriage sponsors are “based on misinterpretation” or are “simply factually incorrect.”

He said he and the march’s critics have a “common disdain for harsh and hateful rhetoric,” but pointed out that supporters of marriage as a union of one man and one woman have also faced this rhetoric and even harsh action.

“Simply for taking a stand for marriage as it has been understood in every human society for millennia, people have lost their jobs, lost their livelihoods, and have suffered other types of retribution, including physical violence,” the archbishop said.

He rejected violence against persons with same-sex attraction, while also noting the violent attack on March for Marriage sponsor the Family Research Council. In August 2012, a gunman who was also an LGBT community center volunteer targeted the advocacy group, shooting and wounding a security guard before being wrestled to the ground.

Archbishop Cordileone said he is willing to meet with his critics “not only to dialogue, but simply so that we can get to know each other.”

“Please do not make judgments based on stereotypes, media images and comments taken out of context. Rather, get to know us first as fellow human beings.”

“It is the personal encounter that changes the vision of the other and softens the heart. In the end, love is the answer, and this can happen even between people with such deep disagreements,” he stated.

House Speaker Nancy Pelosi (D.-Calif.), a self-identified Catholic from San Francisco, in a separate letter criticized the archbishop’s participation in the March for Marriage. She claimed that the march is “venom masquerading as virtue,” the San Francisco Chronicle reports.

Thomas Peters, a writer for CatholicVote.org and former communications director for the National Organization for Marriage, responded to Speaker Pelosi and other critics of the archbishop.

“(I)t is a milestone for dozens of politicians to tell an American archbishop that he is so wrong about his own faith that he is morally at fault when he acts in the public square in accordance with his conscience,” Peters wrote June 16 at CatholicVote.org.

Peters called on Catholics and others to support the March for Marriage by attending in person or showing support for the event through social media. He also suggested praying for the archbishop, writing letters of support to him, and showing support for him on social media.

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To read LifeSiteNews story on archbishop’s response, click here.


  1. Even if you can’t make it to the March, you might want to help fund it! It’s not too late!


  2. St. Christopher says:

    Actually, Abp. Cordileone was cordial, and truthful, to a point. In fact, the only reason for the March, at all, and for Proposition 8, and for activism on this issue, is to oppose homosexual sexual marriage. The Archbishop is courageous, but he cannot honestly give a “don’t worry, be happy” response, and remain faithful to his role as a shepherd of souls. This kind of conflict had to happen sooner or later. At some point, someone in the Church — someone — needed to tell homosexual sexualists that they cannot morally, licitly, and in communion with the Church, have sexual relations and that they cannot marry (that is, in the eyes of the Church). Abp. Cordileone cannot be Bob Marley, if he has a meeting (the need of which seems dubious) at some point he will have to say more than that, “God loves you, we love you” that sort of thing. Homosexual sexualists obviously hear those words (and the ill-advised “respect” language used in the Church) and understand them to be permission and approval of their sexual lifestyles. Surely the Archbishop knows this; he cannot keep saying, “we are not against anything” and be taken seriously. In fact, Catholics at some point need to say, “Archbishop, are you just saying that you are for man-woman marriage; are there now two kinds of marriages that the Church is for?”

    • Your Fellow Catholic says:

      It’s totally fine that the Archbishop tell same sex couples that they can’t be married in the eyes of the Church. The letter to him SAYS that. What was objectionable was his role in Prop 8 in that he was telling people who are not in the Church, people who have no desire to be in the Church, that society needed them to vote to keep same sex couples from getting married in the eyes of the STATE. Get the difference. He has every right to say what marriages are in the eyes of the Church. But when he tries to tell non-Catholics what marriages are in the eyes of the State, then we have issues with that.

      What is objectionable, in the eyes of the letter to him, was that he was co-sponsoring and appearing on stage at an event with people who call gay people and their relationships satanism, naziism, bestiality,etc etc. And I think the letter provided quotes PROVING those statements, yet the Archbishop wrote back, “oh well, you took them out of context, they would never have said that”. Except that they do it all the time.

      • YFC, do you now object to Faithful Catholics having the right to free speech, and the right to assemble?

        Do not non-Catholics have the right to hear both sides of any issue?
        They will vote the way they see fit, and know that they are not bound by someone else’s Faith/Church.

        The letter to the Abp lied, which is not surprising.
        Good Americans and good Catholics support marriage between one man and one woman. Since you state in your moniker that you are “Catholic”, why are you not active in this pursuit as well. It’s in the Bible.

      • Anonymous says:

        I understand your points. But since Vatican II, the Catholic Church has emphasized it’s responsibility to see the world not as an enemy but as a responsibility. We must share what we know about God, His Will and His plan for mankind with the world (even when the world does not want to hear it.)
        Every social cause has people in it who are not as high-minded as the Catholic Church. Perhaps Archbishop Cordileone can be a good influence on those who disrespect gay people.

      • Kenneth M. Fisher says:

        Self described “YFC”,

        When you stand before your Eternal Judge, do you actually believe that your beloved amoral State will be able to defend your rejection of His Teachings?.

        May God have mercy on your sodomy compromised soul!

        May God have mercy on an amoral Amerika and His Church!
        Viva Cristo Rey!
        Yours in Their Hearts,
        Kenneth M. Fisher

  3. “Please do not make judgments based on stereotypes, media images and comments taken out of context. Rather, get to know us first as fellow human beings.” Seriously? Abp. Cordileone clearly has no clue as to with whom he is getting into bed; or if he does, he’s being truly disingenuous in the face of valid criticism.

    • Ann Malley says:

      Adversity makes strange bed fellows, peter. So if you take issue with who the Archbishop is aligning himself with, you may want to ask yourself why. The why in this case is the rabid attack against true marriage to the detriment of the individuals involved, children, and society as a whole.

      The shocked, fellow “Catholics” are the disingenuous ones, reaching out for “love” of neighbor to abrade the Archbishop if only to assure their constituency that they are still CINOs. Their’s isn’t love of neighbor per se, but a decided love of their neighbor’s vote! Strange bedfellows indeed.

    • Your correct Peter. Please note that this AB does rarely meets with anyone – In the rare case that he does (public or private) a written statement of questions asked is required.

    • peter, then why don’t you start a group that supports marriage between one man and one woman, as stated in the Bible ?
      (Homosexual Acts are also condemned in the Bible as well.)

  4. SandraD says:

    Thank you Archbishop Cordileone for staying strong and not caving in. Pelosi and others……this is not about people with SSA……this is about the Truth that marriage is between one man and one woman so that by that union the children will be raised, protected, and cared for in a stable union which also benefits society as a whole. I’m through with the name calling and labeling that goes on by Pelosi and others. No matter how hard you try you cannot turn a sow’s ear into a silk purse.

  5. God Bless Abp Cordileone. We support you and will pray for you.

    Heretic Pelosi merely wants to control our speech,
    and our thoughts as much as possible.
    Everyone should have freedom of speech, and the right to assemble except those who disagree with her on moral issues.

    Heretic Pelosi was busy getting the Planned Parenthood Margaret Sanger HATE award for supporting killing innocent unborn babies in March of this year.
    Apparently, dismemberment and chemical burning is true love according to botox face.

  6. St. Christopher says:

    “Your Fellow Catholic” and “peter”: Sorry, your disingenuous comments are wrong on so many grounds, here are a some: (1) a society is not required to commit ethical suicide by agreeing to an unreasonable and unworkable notion of equality; homosexual sexual relationships, including marriage are unnatural and have non-religious consequences to a society: please review Robert Reilly’s book, “Homosexual Behavior is Changing Everything”; (2) religious practices that are materially at odds with widely accepted secular norms will be required to change or there will be serious legal consequences; and (3) as a corollary to #2, members of a religion will alter their adherence to a Faith that is very different to fundamental beliefs of the society within which they live (this can be seen by the widespread acceptance, among current Catholics, with divorce, sexual ethics, and, unfortunately, homosexual sexual relations). But, you both know all of this; at least be honest here, you do not hold worthy of respect any limitations in the Church regarding its prohibitions on homosexual sexual behavior. Proposition 8 is only a Trojan Horse to get inside the Church itself and affect change.

    • St. Chris, the fact that reality presents truths contrary to those which certain religious fundamentals would advance is the one obvious reason the church is failing. Altering one’s blind adherence to faith in an attempt to reconcile that faith with reality is the natural consequence of a thinking person’s belief in false doctrine. I don’t really care what the church does in regard to it’s sacraments or it’s teachings, although I’d prefer it not teach that I am an abomination. But in the end, it will either survive or fail on it’s own merits.

      • Ann Malley says:

        If you do not care about what the Church teaches in regards to its sacraments or teachings then you should let things rest, peter. The Church has every right to express that which Christ has entrusted to Her. If you don’t believe it, don’t.

        As to the ‘obvious’ reasons for the Church’s so called failings, it is the age old desire to do what one wants to do instead of that which we are called to do. That scenario is nothing new and has played out throughout the ages. Times change, but people don’t. That’s the only fundamental here, peter.

        There is no ‘new’ truth despite how much you may want one.

      • Anonymous says:

        The Church does not teach that anyone is an abomination.

        • No, but the Church DOES teach that certain acts committed by people ARE an abomination! Sodomy IS an abomination!

      • retrospective says:

        Have you seriously never heard that Jesus guaranteed that the gates of Hell would not prevail against the Church? The Church will never fail. Never. And those who insist on spending their lives in sin will spend their eternities in Hell. You’re going to argue about this? What do you know? You know more than the theologians of 2,000 years? You’re the height of arrogance, if not stupidity. What difference should it make to you that the Church teaches that you are an abomination? (It doesn’t, just that your conduct is.) After all, Hell will just be barely getting underway after a million years!

      • Kenneth M. Fisher says:


        ” I don’t really care what the church does in regard to it’s sacraments or it’s teachings”! Our Lord taught that the Devil was a liar from the start, and you are certainly proving that. If as you say you don’t care, what the heck or you doing on this Catholic Site?

        May God have mercy on an amoral Amerika, your sorry soul, and His Church!
        Viva Cristo Rey!
        Yours in Their Hearts,
        Kenneth M. Fisher

  7. SandraD says:

    AWESOME homily Father Mitch gave yesterday on EWTN!!!!
    Tells it like it is in regards to Nancy Pelosi, and everyone who goes against God.
    How AWESOME it would be if ALL of our Priests would give us homilies like Father Mitch’s!!!!!!!!!

  8. Here is the march for Marriage site.
    Watch the video.
    Our religious freedoms are being taken away.

  9. Michael McDermott says:

    Rick Santorum (former Senator / Presidential Candidate – despised like the Arch-Bishop by the lamesteam media too) will be speaking at the March.

    Rick spoke to Graduates at Trinity Christian School Recently giving an Analysis of the Current Situation (how did it happen?) and a Preview of what is planned for the future by these same forces – and How We can Stand Up to such a culture of Evil Lies emanating from the ‘Father of Lies’:

    Rick Santorum will speak at the March for Marriage in Washington, DC on Thursday at 11:30 AM ET! Watch the live-stream here starting at 11 AM ET: http://www.marriagemarch.org/

    The Honorable Rick Santorum’s 2014 Commencement Address at Trinity Christian School

    • Linda Maria says:

      Rick Santorum for President! He should be acknowledged as one of our very best leading Catholic politicians, in America!

  10. Linda Maria says:

    The Archbishop needs to preach, teach, and enforce Christian morality, in all of his churches, and in all Catholic schools, universities, Catholic charities, and other Catholic institutions of his Archdiocese! He also needs to demand that all Catholic clergy, and all Catholic paid and volunteer laymen in his Archdiocese, strictly abide by Catholic Faith and Morals, in their daily lives– or be terminated!! Corrupt “Catholic” institutions, (like USF, for example), teach and preach immoral and heretical beliefs, and its graduates poison the entire world, after graduation, with their new, often-high-profile jobs, sinful lives, and diabolic immoral and heretical beliefs– such as gay “marriage,” abortion, pre-marital sex, contraception, etc. So many, many clergy and laity in a state of obstinate, unrepentant Mortal Sin, need to be excommunicated!! Let’s start with Rep. Nancy Pelosi, the so-called “leading Catholic politician,” of America!! Train your troops, Archbishop, and they all will go to work, for Christ, to help Him build His Kingdom of Heaven!!

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